So, it is a new year. You will be happy to know that this blog will not be about resolutions. I am all for them, if you make one. But why? I believe that resolutions are about a process. It may be judged by the ending of a process…but none the less a process. What I want to focus on as the new year begins is another form of the word resolution-resolve.
Do you have the resolve that it takes to begin the new year…to begin your journey. Because if you do…then go ahead and make that resolution.
There is a quote that I believe helps us understand about resolve:
"And the day came, when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom" The author of this quote was Anais Nin. She was an author known for publishing her personal journals and for one of the first female writers of erotica. (Don't worry…I am not suggesting that you go write erotica!)
What stands out in this quote is the idea of risk vs. pain. Sometimes, life presents challenges to us that are painful…relationships, children, career etc. These experiences can cause emotional upheaval that expose us, makes us feel vulnerable. Our feelings are either stuffed inside so deep that it is painful or exposed for all to see, to possibly ridicule and that becomes painful. But to find a resolution (to begin that process) can often put us at risk. Again this process requires we expose ourselves-our emotions, feelings or truths to others. This can be a double-edged sword, some might call it a double-bind…there just feels like there is no good option.
So how do we blossom? We use our resolve. That powerful force inside of us…deep inside…that pushes toward our truth. It says, "Yes, blossoming, although painful is right-go ahead…take that risk." It says, "I will be here to support you, push you, keep you going". So as you move into a new year…what is your resolve going to push you to do? Is there a relationship that needs healing? Is there a child that needs loving? Is there a career that needs nurturing? What risks are you willing to take so that you can blossom?
